Bare minimum is a term that is at the center of modern day relationships. It’s a debate that has been going on and we might not come to a memorandum of understanding on this heated topic. The constant introduction of new terms has been on the rise and recently, I came across this very interesting term that will mesmerize you and equally have you raging. The evolution of relationships throughout generations is quite significant and the changes are sometimes hard to keep up with. The complexities around the theme of love keep becoming more tangled. Quite frankly, rocket science at this point might be easier, I mean its mathematics and it has a formula but love, emotions, no formula whatsoever is guaranteed to work but that doesn’t stop people from trying. That is why a narcissistic person decided to come up with a manipulation method known as the “care-bear” method or maybe it has existed for a long time but now we have a name for it.
The “care-bear” method is a term that was coined from the popular app, TikTok. This comes with a couple of testimonials from countless people attesting to how this method works and puts you in a position of “control” or “power”. The concept behind this method is ghosting someone you are romantically interested in briefly the reconnecting with them in a “new” way. At this point, I know that the dots have started connecting to form a pattern that you have experienced in the past or maybe at the moment. This method however goes deeper than that. It’s a cunning game of numbers and I need your undivided attention to understand how it works. A more detailed explanation states that the guy or man in a relationship gives 100% in a relationship with their partner then they drop the attention and love drastically to 50%. This will raise an eyebrow and when their partner confronts them, they give 80%. Now, there’s still a deficit of 20% but the slight 30% change will seem worth it and the pattern goes on and on until there’s a remarkable drop. Eventually, you end up settling for what, 30%? Or maybe less but you still remain grateful because they are giving you something.
Those who use this hideous method argue that, it keeps things interesting in a relationship by stirring up curiosity in their partner; you know keeping things spicy. If this is what we call spicy then bland just might be my cup of tea. The “care-bear” method is a form of manipulation that might be translated to emotional abuse. What is being perceived as stirring “curiosity” is outright playing and invalidating your partner’s feelings. The frustration of being ghosted or being tricked into settling for less than the bare minimum is unhealthy. Being stuck in that manipulative cycle holds you back from exploring what you deserve; a healthy relationship. The illusion that you have everything while having nothing at all. No control whatsoever. These games are becoming rampant as everyone wants to have the upper hand when it comes to love but we are getting it all wrong. You don’t strategize love, love buds and unfolds and to experience it, you have to be willing to embrace that freefall. Failure to which, you will settle for less than the bare minimum, which potentially means nothing.
Ps. Just Saying.
JUST SAYING 