A recent experiment was conducted with convicted felons in the US a few years back. They placed hidden cameras that recorded people walking in New York City. They then took the footages and played them for some convicted felons in prison. The convicted felons were instructed to watch the videos and identify who would be an easy target or better yet prey for them. What was most fascinating with this experiment is that the felons choose the exact same people as prey in the footages that they were shown. The reasons that they gave concerning them picking their prey is on how the walked.
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Finding Hope After Hitting Rock Bottom
The worst is never really the worst. Not a phrase that we like to hear but there is much truth in this statement. Whether we anticipate it or not, the bad will always happen. Call it the equilibrium of life. Life has to find balance, the good and bad have to exist equally. They are like the ying and yang; two opposite forces that complement each other to form a whole.
Is Love Bombing Toxic? Identifying the Red Flags
Love bombing is described as a toxic relationship when a partner tries so hard to make the other feel like the are loved deeply in an uncomfortable way. This restricts you from being yourself. The manipulation is disguised by intense love, attention and affection.
Why You Need to Ditch Your Comfort Zone for Love
I once heard a guy scold ladies who lock themselves in the whole weekend then proceed to say that they are single and just find love. “Where do you expect to find a man to date you? You don’t expect a man to drop like manner from heaven? Or magically appear on your doorstep with a bouquet of flowers and ring, proposing to you and you live happily ever after?” Actually, all these are pretty decent ideas that most ladies wouldn’t mind. It would save us the hassle of engaging in small talk that barely leads anywhere but the gutter.
A Tale of Identity: John’s Struggles as an African Abroad
It started off with the snoopy guard at a convenience store following him around suspiciously and a pat down as he left the store which the guard said was “standard procedure” but all the white folks left the store at their own pleasure. John didn’t let this misdemeanor get to him though, he expected it but what happened next, took him by surprise.
Break Free from Toxic Relationships with the Grey Rock Technique
The Grey Rock method is a strategy of protecting yourself from abusive or toxic friends, partners, co-workers and family members. It entails becoming unresponsive to abusive or manipulative behavior so that the perpetrator loses interest. Abusive people thrive on attention and validation.
Discover Your Ikigai: The Key to a Meaningful Life
Ikigai is defined as the reason for being. It translates to having a sense of purpose and a reason for living. Many at times, you tend to feel lost or have a void inside and you can’t quite put your finger on the reason why you feel useless. You become prone to anxiety, worry, self-doubt, stress and eventually depression. Ikigai reveals a passion that gives you value and joy in life.
The Care-Bear Method: Love or Manipulation?
The “care-bear” method is a term that was coined from the popular app TikTok. This comes with a couple of testimonials from countless people attesting to how this method works and put you in a position of “control” or “power”. The concept behind this method is ghosting someone you are romantically interested in briefly the reconnecting with them in a “new” way.
Why You Struggle to Say No: Unpacking People-Pleasing
How often do you say no? Do you tend to feel guilty after saying no? Why do you tend to agree with things that go against your values? We have grown up in a society where saying no is seen as being mean and selfish. We then put on a façade to fit into the idea of what is deemed acceptable so we may belong.
Unlock New Year Secrets: The 12 Grapes Ritual
As I was scanning through social media, I came across trending videos of people eating grapes under a table and shortly after there is a reel of them living their best life. I had many questions running through my mind like what did grapes have to do with living an ideal life? Why eat grapes under a table? Where did this trend begin? What are the expected outcomes? What are the repercussions? The web of endless questions sent me down a rabbit hole of discovery and this is what I learnt about the 12 grapes under the table ritual.
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