Weaponized incompetence; a popular manipulation tactic that is characterized by someone pretending to be incompetent in a particular task just so they can rid themselves of the task. The perpetrator accomplishes this by purposefully performing poorly at tasks assigned or claiming inability to perform certain tasks so as to avoid responsibility.
Category Archives: ATTACHMENT DISORDERS
Why You Need to Ditch Your Comfort Zone for Love
I once heard a guy scold ladies who lock themselves in the whole weekend then proceed to say that they are single and just find love. “Where do you expect to find a man to date you? You don’t expect a man to drop like manner from heaven? Or magically appear on your doorstep with a bouquet of flowers and ring, proposing to you and you live happily ever after?” Actually, all these are pretty decent ideas that most ladies wouldn’t mind. It would save us the hassle of engaging in small talk that barely leads anywhere but the gutter.
A Tale of Identity: John’s Struggles as an African Abroad
It started off with the snoopy guard at a convenience store following him around suspiciously and a pat down as he left the store which the guard said was “standard procedure” but all the white folks left the store at their own pleasure. John didn’t let this misdemeanor get to him though, he expected it but what happened next, took him by surprise.
Break Free from Toxic Relationships with the Grey Rock Technique
The Grey Rock method is a strategy of protecting yourself from abusive or toxic friends, partners, co-workers and family members. It entails becoming unresponsive to abusive or manipulative behavior so that the perpetrator loses interest. Abusive people thrive on attention and validation.
Discover Your Ikigai: The Key to a Meaningful Life
Ikigai is defined as the reason for being. It translates to having a sense of purpose and a reason for living. Many at times, you tend to feel lost or have a void inside and you can’t quite put your finger on the reason why you feel useless. You become prone to anxiety, worry, self-doubt, stress and eventually depression. Ikigai reveals a passion that gives you value and joy in life.
How Expectations Shape Our Performance: The Pygmalion Effect
Pygmalion Effect demonstrates how others expectations can greatly impact our delivery. If someone we respect or want to impress believes we will succeed, it influences our perception of ourselves. It could be the difference between you believing that you will achieve your dreams or that you will never amount to anything.
Why ‘Being Delulu is the Solulu’ Matters for Youth
Everyone has an absurd story of how they have witnessed a Gen Z and confidently call out someone older in whatever set up for an injustice they had observed. In a recent trend, Gen Z came up with the mantra “being delulu is the solulu”. When we talk about delusion, it triggers a different reaction from different generations. The older generation will probably say, “that’s a terrible way to live, just go out there and work like the rest of us.” However, the younger generation have a contrary opinion. With the new world order, things are not favorable for the young generation. Learned but no jobs, more liberal but misunderstood, and more confident but considered entitled. Now this is where the mantra comes in and serves it’s purpose.
JOMO (Joy of Missing Out)
JOMO refers to the pleasure that is derived from living a quiet or independent way without the anxiety of missing out. You tend to focus more on what makes you happy and what makes you contented.
EUPHORIA VS DESPAIR (Limerence)
Limerence is the obsessive infatuation with a specific person. It can go to lengths of delusion where you become utterly obsessed with a celebrity in a different continent and you build your entire life around them because you’re convinced you two are meant to be. That foolish strong love and interest in someone creates an attachment where you feel the irrevocable urge to be with this person; limerent object.
ALONE BUT NOT LONELY(Solitude)
“What if you encounter a toxic person or violent person?” I inquired from him. ” It’s better than being alone, “he answered. And that friends, is where my pursuit to convince him to try solitude started.
JUST SAYING 