Love! A very simple and straightforward concept that should be way simpler than calculus or trigonometry but why does it feel like every attempt to try and understand this modern dating scene results in endless complicated rocket science equations. It was easier during our parents’ time; that is if they are honest about how things used to go down.
Category Archives: MODERN LOVE
Breaking the Plateau: Achieving Your New Year Goals
Done and dusted! The first quarter of the year is done and it’s a clear depiction of the popular phrase “time waits for no man.” Another year is going by and it begs the question, are you making progress or are you stuck in the endless loop of comfort? At this moment, the we are running on the high of being unstoppable and you can already play out your picture perfect life that’s yet to unfold but this fantasy bubble soon evaporates at the slightest sign of trouble. Reality comes crashing and rebuilding the once perfect castle becomes an impossible task.
Breaking Free from Validation Addiction
Seeking validation is defined as the constant need for external approval. It influences how you perceive yourself. You attach you worth to other people’s approval and opinions. Conditional self-worth gives people power over how you value yourself. We often crave attention from others especially when we need them to notice what we are doing.
Walking Confidently: Insights from a Unique Experiment
A recent experiment was conducted with convicted felons in the US a few years back. They placed hidden cameras that recorded people walking in New York City. They then took the footages and played them for some convicted felons in prison. The convicted felons were instructed to watch the videos and identify who would be an easy target or better yet prey for them. What was most fascinating with this experiment is that the felons choose the exact same people as prey in the footages that they were shown. The reasons that they gave concerning them picking their prey is on how the walked.
Finding Hope After Hitting Rock Bottom
The worst is never really the worst. Not a phrase that we like to hear but there is much truth in this statement. Whether we anticipate it or not, the bad will always happen. Call it the equilibrium of life. Life has to find balance, the good and bad have to exist equally. They are like the ying and yang; two opposite forces that complement each other to form a whole.
Is Love Bombing Toxic? Identifying the Red Flags
Love bombing is described as a toxic relationship when a partner tries so hard to make the other feel like the are loved deeply in an uncomfortable way. This restricts you from being yourself. The manipulation is disguised by intense love, attention and affection.
Why You Need to Ditch Your Comfort Zone for Love
I once heard a guy scold ladies who lock themselves in the whole weekend then proceed to say that they are single and just find love. “Where do you expect to find a man to date you? You don’t expect a man to drop like manner from heaven? Or magically appear on your doorstep with a bouquet of flowers and ring, proposing to you and you live happily ever after?” Actually, all these are pretty decent ideas that most ladies wouldn’t mind. It would save us the hassle of engaging in small talk that barely leads anywhere but the gutter.
A Tale of Identity: John’s Struggles as an African Abroad
It started off with the snoopy guard at a convenience store following him around suspiciously and a pat down as he left the store which the guard said was “standard procedure” but all the white folks left the store at their own pleasure. John didn’t let this misdemeanor get to him though, he expected it but what happened next, took him by surprise.
Break Free from Toxic Relationships with the Grey Rock Technique
The Grey Rock method is a strategy of protecting yourself from abusive or toxic friends, partners, co-workers and family members. It entails becoming unresponsive to abusive or manipulative behavior so that the perpetrator loses interest. Abusive people thrive on attention and validation.
Discover Your Ikigai: The Key to a Meaningful Life
Ikigai is defined as the reason for being. It translates to having a sense of purpose and a reason for living. Many at times, you tend to feel lost or have a void inside and you can’t quite put your finger on the reason why you feel useless. You become prone to anxiety, worry, self-doubt, stress and eventually depression. Ikigai reveals a passion that gives you value and joy in life.
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