Love! A very simple and straightforward concept that should be way simpler than calculus or trigonometry but why does it feel like every attempt to try and understand this modern dating scene results in endless complicated rocket science equations. It was easier during our parents’ time; that is if they are honest about how things used to go down.
Category Archives: PERSONALITY DISORDERS
Discovering Life’s Intentionality in Lamu
The will to live is a concept that most of us tend to overlook. We live just because we exist and without knowing it, we count our days instead of making our days count. I know it sounds coy, like something a motivational speaker would say but hear me out. I took a trip to Lamu a couple of weeks back and I had a life transforming experience that got me thinking deeply about my intentionality when it comes to living life.
Why Weaponized Incompetence Is More Than Just Laziness
Weaponized incompetence; a popular manipulation tactic that is characterized by someone pretending to be incompetent in a particular task just so they can rid themselves of the task. The perpetrator accomplishes this by purposefully performing poorly at tasks assigned or claiming inability to perform certain tasks so as to avoid responsibility.
Breaking Free from Validation Addiction
Seeking validation is defined as the constant need for external approval. It influences how you perceive yourself. You attach you worth to other people’s approval and opinions. Conditional self-worth gives people power over how you value yourself. We often crave attention from others especially when we need them to notice what we are doing.
Is Love Bombing Toxic? Identifying the Red Flags
Love bombing is described as a toxic relationship when a partner tries so hard to make the other feel like the are loved deeply in an uncomfortable way. This restricts you from being yourself. The manipulation is disguised by intense love, attention and affection.
Break Free from Toxic Relationships with the Grey Rock Technique
The Grey Rock method is a strategy of protecting yourself from abusive or toxic friends, partners, co-workers and family members. It entails becoming unresponsive to abusive or manipulative behavior so that the perpetrator loses interest. Abusive people thrive on attention and validation.
Discover Your Ikigai: The Key to a Meaningful Life
Ikigai is defined as the reason for being. It translates to having a sense of purpose and a reason for living. Many at times, you tend to feel lost or have a void inside and you can’t quite put your finger on the reason why you feel useless. You become prone to anxiety, worry, self-doubt, stress and eventually depression. Ikigai reveals a passion that gives you value and joy in life.
The Care-Bear Method: Love or Manipulation?
The “care-bear” method is a term that was coined from the popular app TikTok. This comes with a couple of testimonials from countless people attesting to how this method works and put you in a position of “control” or “power”. The concept behind this method is ghosting someone you are romantically interested in briefly the reconnecting with them in a “new” way.
Why You Struggle to Say No: Unpacking People-Pleasing
How often do you say no? Do you tend to feel guilty after saying no? Why do you tend to agree with things that go against your values? We have grown up in a society where saying no is seen as being mean and selfish. We then put on a façade to fit into the idea of what is deemed acceptable so we may belong.
How Expectations Shape Our Performance: The Pygmalion Effect
Pygmalion Effect demonstrates how others expectations can greatly impact our delivery. If someone we respect or want to impress believes we will succeed, it influences our perception of ourselves. It could be the difference between you believing that you will achieve your dreams or that you will never amount to anything.
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