Love! A very simple and straightforward concept that should be way simpler than calculus or trigonometry but why does it feel like every attempt to try and understand this modern dating scene results in endless complicated rocket science equations. It was easier during our parents’ time; that is if they are honest about how things used to go down.
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Breaking the Plateau: Achieving Your New Year Goals
Done and dusted! The first quarter of the year is done and it’s a clear depiction of the popular phrase “time waits for no man.” Another year is going by and it begs the question, are you making progress or are you stuck in the endless loop of comfort? At this moment, the we are running on the high of being unstoppable and you can already play out your picture perfect life that’s yet to unfold but this fantasy bubble soon evaporates at the slightest sign of trouble. Reality comes crashing and rebuilding the once perfect castle becomes an impossible task.
Why You Need to Ditch Your Comfort Zone for Love
I once heard a guy scold ladies who lock themselves in the whole weekend then proceed to say that they are single and just find love. “Where do you expect to find a man to date you? You don’t expect a man to drop like manner from heaven? Or magically appear on your doorstep with a bouquet of flowers and ring, proposing to you and you live happily ever after?” Actually, all these are pretty decent ideas that most ladies wouldn’t mind. It would save us the hassle of engaging in small talk that barely leads anywhere but the gutter.
The Care-Bear Method: Love or Manipulation?
The “care-bear” method is a term that was coined from the popular app TikTok. This comes with a couple of testimonials from countless people attesting to how this method works and put you in a position of “control” or “power”. The concept behind this method is ghosting someone you are romantically interested in briefly the reconnecting with them in a “new” way.
Why You Struggle to Say No: Unpacking People-Pleasing
How often do you say no? Do you tend to feel guilty after saying no? Why do you tend to agree with things that go against your values? We have grown up in a society where saying no is seen as being mean and selfish. We then put on a façade to fit into the idea of what is deemed acceptable so we may belong.
Why ‘Being Delulu is the Solulu’ Matters for Youth
Everyone has an absurd story of how they have witnessed a Gen Z and confidently call out someone older in whatever set up for an injustice they had observed. In a recent trend, Gen Z came up with the mantra “being delulu is the solulu”. When we talk about delusion, it triggers a different reaction from different generations. The older generation will probably say, “that’s a terrible way to live, just go out there and work like the rest of us.” However, the younger generation have a contrary opinion. With the new world order, things are not favorable for the young generation. Learned but no jobs, more liberal but misunderstood, and more confident but considered entitled. Now this is where the mantra comes in and serves it’s purpose.
JOMO (Joy of Missing Out)
JOMO refers to the pleasure that is derived from living a quiet or independent way without the anxiety of missing out. You tend to focus more on what makes you happy and what makes you contented.
FOMO(Fear of Missing Out)
Fear, at the center of it all. Fear of being alone, of missing out on experiences and opportunities. Fast forward and I am now an adult. Same girl, same dreams, still afraid but now an evolved kind of fear. The fear of missing out.
EUPHORIA VS DESPAIR (Limerence)
Limerence is the obsessive infatuation with a specific person. It can go to lengths of delusion where you become utterly obsessed with a celebrity in a different continent and you build your entire life around them because you’re convinced you two are meant to be. That foolish strong love and interest in someone creates an attachment where you feel the irrevocable urge to be with this person; limerent object.
LIABILITY TO AN ASSET(Invest in yourself)
“You can’t keep doing the same things over and over with the same pattern and expect different results,” is a phrase we have all heard at least once in our lifetime but do we really pay attention to the intention behind those words? I have taken interest in finance and I came across some interesting terms that I think we should all apply in our everyday life. Invest, liability and asset.
JUST SAYING 