Ikigai is defined as the reason for being. It translates to having a sense of purpose and a reason for living. Many at times, you tend to feel lost or have a void inside and you can’t quite put your finger on the reason why you feel useless. You become prone to anxiety, worry, self-doubt, stress and eventually depression. Ikigai reveals a passion that gives you value and joy in life.
Category Archives: SELF LOVE
The Care-Bear Method: Love or Manipulation?
The “care-bear” method is a term that was coined from the popular app TikTok. This comes with a couple of testimonials from countless people attesting to how this method works and put you in a position of “control” or “power”. The concept behind this method is ghosting someone you are romantically interested in briefly the reconnecting with them in a “new” way.
Why You Struggle to Say No: Unpacking People-Pleasing
How often do you say no? Do you tend to feel guilty after saying no? Why do you tend to agree with things that go against your values? We have grown up in a society where saying no is seen as being mean and selfish. We then put on a façade to fit into the idea of what is deemed acceptable so we may belong.
How Expectations Shape Our Performance: The Pygmalion Effect
Pygmalion Effect demonstrates how others expectations can greatly impact our delivery. If someone we respect or want to impress believes we will succeed, it influences our perception of ourselves. It could be the difference between you believing that you will achieve your dreams or that you will never amount to anything.
Why ‘Being Delulu is the Solulu’ Matters for Youth
Everyone has an absurd story of how they have witnessed a Gen Z and confidently call out someone older in whatever set up for an injustice they had observed. In a recent trend, Gen Z came up with the mantra “being delulu is the solulu”. When we talk about delusion, it triggers a different reaction from different generations. The older generation will probably say, “that’s a terrible way to live, just go out there and work like the rest of us.” However, the younger generation have a contrary opinion. With the new world order, things are not favorable for the young generation. Learned but no jobs, more liberal but misunderstood, and more confident but considered entitled. Now this is where the mantra comes in and serves it’s purpose.
JOMO (Joy of Missing Out)
JOMO refers to the pleasure that is derived from living a quiet or independent way without the anxiety of missing out. You tend to focus more on what makes you happy and what makes you contented.
FOMO(Fear of Missing Out)
Fear, at the center of it all. Fear of being alone, of missing out on experiences and opportunities. Fast forward and I am now an adult. Same girl, same dreams, still afraid but now an evolved kind of fear. The fear of missing out.
EUPHORIA VS DESPAIR (Limerence)
Limerence is the obsessive infatuation with a specific person. It can go to lengths of delusion where you become utterly obsessed with a celebrity in a different continent and you build your entire life around them because you’re convinced you two are meant to be. That foolish strong love and interest in someone creates an attachment where you feel the irrevocable urge to be with this person; limerent object.
LIABILITY TO AN ASSET(Invest in yourself)
“You can’t keep doing the same things over and over with the same pattern and expect different results,” is a phrase we have all heard at least once in our lifetime but do we really pay attention to the intention behind those words? I have taken interest in finance and I came across some interesting terms that I think we should all apply in our everyday life. Invest, liability and asset.
ALONE BUT NOT LONELY(Solitude)
“What if you encounter a toxic person or violent person?” I inquired from him. ” It’s better than being alone, “he answered. And that friends, is where my pursuit to convince him to try solitude started.
JUST SAYING 