Love! A very simple and straightforward concept that should be way simpler than calculus or trigonometry but why does it feel like every attempt to try and understand this modern dating scene results in endless complicated rocket science equations. It was easier during our parents’ time; that is if they are honest about how things used to go down.
Category Archives: SOLITUDE
Breaking the Plateau: Achieving Your New Year Goals
Done and dusted! The first quarter of the year is done and it’s a clear depiction of the popular phrase “time waits for no man.” Another year is going by and it begs the question, are you making progress or are you stuck in the endless loop of comfort? At this moment, the we are running on the high of being unstoppable and you can already play out your picture perfect life that’s yet to unfold but this fantasy bubble soon evaporates at the slightest sign of trouble. Reality comes crashing and rebuilding the once perfect castle becomes an impossible task.
Why Weaponized Incompetence Is More Than Just Laziness
Weaponized incompetence; a popular manipulation tactic that is characterized by someone pretending to be incompetent in a particular task just so they can rid themselves of the task. The perpetrator accomplishes this by purposefully performing poorly at tasks assigned or claiming inability to perform certain tasks so as to avoid responsibility.
Breaking Free from Validation Addiction
Seeking validation is defined as the constant need for external approval. It influences how you perceive yourself. You attach you worth to other people’s approval and opinions. Conditional self-worth gives people power over how you value yourself. We often crave attention from others especially when we need them to notice what we are doing.
Why You Need to Ditch Your Comfort Zone for Love
I once heard a guy scold ladies who lock themselves in the whole weekend then proceed to say that they are single and just find love. “Where do you expect to find a man to date you? You don’t expect a man to drop like manner from heaven? Or magically appear on your doorstep with a bouquet of flowers and ring, proposing to you and you live happily ever after?” Actually, all these are pretty decent ideas that most ladies wouldn’t mind. It would save us the hassle of engaging in small talk that barely leads anywhere but the gutter.
A Tale of Identity: John’s Struggles as an African Abroad
It started off with the snoopy guard at a convenience store following him around suspiciously and a pat down as he left the store which the guard said was “standard procedure” but all the white folks left the store at their own pleasure. John didn’t let this misdemeanor get to him though, he expected it but what happened next, took him by surprise.
Break Free from Toxic Relationships with the Grey Rock Technique
The Grey Rock method is a strategy of protecting yourself from abusive or toxic friends, partners, co-workers and family members. It entails becoming unresponsive to abusive or manipulative behavior so that the perpetrator loses interest. Abusive people thrive on attention and validation.
Discover Your Ikigai: The Key to a Meaningful Life
Ikigai is defined as the reason for being. It translates to having a sense of purpose and a reason for living. Many at times, you tend to feel lost or have a void inside and you can’t quite put your finger on the reason why you feel useless. You become prone to anxiety, worry, self-doubt, stress and eventually depression. Ikigai reveals a passion that gives you value and joy in life.
The Care-Bear Method: Love or Manipulation?
The “care-bear” method is a term that was coined from the popular app TikTok. This comes with a couple of testimonials from countless people attesting to how this method works and put you in a position of “control” or “power”. The concept behind this method is ghosting someone you are romantically interested in briefly the reconnecting with them in a “new” way.
JOMO (Joy of Missing Out)
JOMO refers to the pleasure that is derived from living a quiet or independent way without the anxiety of missing out. You tend to focus more on what makes you happy and what makes you contented.
JUST SAYING 