Mocking laughter. That is all I was used to. Ever loved something that you are terrible at? You love it so much that you tune your mind to become oblivious to the mockery.
I was in junior school when I discovered that I loved music. I loved moving to the rhythm. Unfortunately, the rhythm and my body were never in sync.
I knew this for a fact but it didn’t stop me from trying. I was a gutsy young child and I wasn’t about to give up on dancing.
Love! A very simple and straightforward concept that should be way simpler than calculus or trigonometry but why does it feel like every attempt to try and understand this modern dating scene results in endless complicated rocket science equations. It was easier during our parents’ time; that is if they are honest about how things used to go down.
Weaponized incompetence; a popular manipulation tactic that is characterized by someone pretending to be incompetent in a particular task just so they can rid themselves of the task. The perpetrator accomplishes this by purposefully performing poorly at tasks assigned or claiming inability to perform certain tasks so as to avoid responsibility.
Seeking validation is defined as the constant need for external approval. It influences how you perceive yourself. You attach you worth to other people’s approval and opinions. Conditional self-worth gives people power over how you value yourself. We often crave attention from others especially when we need them to notice what we are doing.
Love bombing is described as a toxic relationship when a partner tries so hard to make the other feel like the are loved deeply in an uncomfortable way. This restricts you from being yourself. The manipulation is disguised by intense love, attention and affection.
I once heard a guy scold ladies who lock themselves in the whole weekend then proceed to say that they are single and just find love. “Where do you expect to find a man to date you? You don’t expect a man to drop like manner from heaven? Or magically appear on your doorstep with a bouquet of flowers and ring, proposing to you and you live happily ever after?” Actually, all these are pretty decent ideas that most ladies wouldn’t mind. It would save us the hassle of engaging in small talk that barely leads anywhere but the gutter.
Ikigai is defined as the reason for being. It translates to having a sense of purpose and a reason for living. Many at times, you tend to feel lost or have a void inside and you can’t quite put your finger on the reason why you feel useless. You become prone to anxiety, worry, self-doubt, stress and eventually depression. Ikigai reveals a passion that gives you value and joy in life.
The “care-bear” method is a term that was coined from the popular app TikTok. This comes with a couple of testimonials from countless people attesting to how this method works and put you in a position of “control” or “power”. The concept behind this method is ghosting someone you are romantically interested in briefly the reconnecting with them in a “new” way.
A lithromantic is an individual who likes someone but doesn’t want the person to reciprocate romantic feelings or be romantic and if the other party does, they lose interest. Is this pattern starting to sound a little familiar? The romantic attraction starts to fade upon reciprocation and being single doesn’t faze you.
Limerence is the obsessive infatuation with a specific person. It can go to lengths of delusion where you become utterly obsessed with a celebrity in a different continent and you build your entire life around them because you’re convinced you two are meant to be. That foolish strong love and interest in someone creates an attachment where you feel the irrevocable urge to be with this person; limerent object.
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